I remember one client who was offered a lucrative job to work abroad. He was terrified. The financial benefits were generous. It would require him to leave his family to start a new life. He was afraid but excited with the opportunity presented to him. I asked him what was the worst thing that could happen if he took the job.
THE SUCCESS PRINCIPLES ( E Plus R =O ) EVENT + RESPONSE = OUTCOME
My Story the Short Version
In my teens, I suffered from low self esteem. I lacked confidence and blamed the whole world for my misery. I was terrified of confrontations or conflicts, I knew I could not continue with this stinking thinking. I loved reading stories about people who changed the world and never gave up on their dreams.
The library had a section of self help books. I spent many a happy moment reading and taking notes on self improvement. I began noticing changes in my thinking when I practiced the mental exercises and affirmations. I became more of an extrovert. My confidence increased and I took up dancing lessons.
I had a part- time job. I enrolled in speech classes to improve my confidence. At the age of twenty two I worked on cargo boats as a steward serving food. I learned a lot about catering.
For seven years I saw the world and met the most extraordinary people. I ended up in Jerusalem during one trip. I clung onto the pillars of a revered place of worship the Mosque of Omar. I felt a sense of calmness that everything in my life was going to turn out fine.
Everyone I met had challenges, dreams and hope for the future. I was still experiencing challenges in my life. I failed, I stumbled but each time I got up I was a lot stronger. My interest in self development grew. I trained as a Life Coach and used my coaching skills helping others overcome their fears.
I find helping others extremely rewarding. At the age of sixty seven, I was conferred with a BA Honours in Sociology/ Political Science and German. We cannot fail we can only produce results.
I have taken risks and jumped into life. I could have watched my life go by and do nothing. I have proved that by using the Success Principles I am living a richer fuller life and the individuals I have worked with have also witnessed transformations in their lives.
Practice the Success Principles
Trust me, if you act as if you are 100% responsible, whether its true or not; if you act as if it were true, your experience of life and the results you produce will get better.
Therefore, without self- judgement or self blame, you can focus your attention on understanding yourself and your range of choices that may be possible in any given circumstance.
With this awareness, you can make educated, intentional choices.
When your choices don’t result in you getting what you want, you can look to understand what happened and what action you can take next, rather than looking for someone or some circumstance to blame.
Now! I’m going to share with you that simple formula that changed my life, and i know it will change yours.
E+R=O Event + Response = Outcome
If you want to change the outcomes you are experiencing in your life, you must change your responses.